Tag: life

Just be yourself (2 mins)


Live authentically. Why would you continue to compromise something that’s beautiful to create something that is fake?
Steve Maraboli

I have a confession to make, I was comparing myself with others a lot. Guess what? I noticed I’m never going to be like you. I could try and try with every ounce of my being, but I still would be a lesser version of you than you already are. I could put all of my focus into acting like you, talking like you, writing like you, being like you – and you would still be better at being you than I ever could.



“The real voyage of discovery doesn’t consist of seeking a new landscape but in having new eyes”_Marcel Proust
It’s not uncommon to find people blame their failures to achieve stated goals on limitations of time and resources. Indeed this has become an everyday excuse that without these two obstacles, all humans would have become. As great as all the famous achievers known in history; ancient and contemporary time.
However, the truth of the matter is that continuous blaming of time and resources for failures would achieve nothing but to confine us to where we are. A radical approach which retails seeing beyond the apparent environmental obstacles to face our tasks squarely and with all vigour will scheme wonders in leading us to even the remotest, the most ambitious of our aspirations. This calls for sight, vision, right planning and right discipline. Key tips to rising above the ever present pressure of time and resources and get directly connected to our goals are listed below.
1. Articulate your goals.
2. Define your strategies and constantly review them.
3. Define your daily tasks.
4. Review your performance daily.
5. Compete with yourself and not others.
6. Above all, be disciplined.
Articulate your goals.
According to Soren Kierkegaard, The greatest mistake a traveller could make is to start without being sure of his or her destination. Therefore, the first step to pursuing life’s goals is to identify what those goals are and describe them in relevant details. Former US president, Bill Jefferson Clinton noted that early enough in his life,he had defined a set of clear cut life ambitions for himself which includes ‘having a successful legal practice and becoming a successful politician’. Such goals definition makes us resolute, keeps us focused against all odds and distractions. Sit back get a pen and paper and identify those goals see to it that you work to achieve them.

No human endeavor thrives in the absence of a define plan of execution. People are constantly in the mistake of ascribing planning to only those tasks that are public and official. He who fails to plan, plans to fail. Therefore, we must always produce blueprints for pursuing our goals. It is important to know, that since time and circumstances offer different challenges and they do vary as time goes on, then this begs the need for continuous effort in improvement is needed. If we just keep to just one strategic plan , it will leave us just chasing shadows in the name of pursuing our goals that’s why it’s good to always improvise.

A journey f one thousand miles, they say begins with a step. Therefore, pursuit of life’s ambition is an everyday task; each day is a opportunity to take one step that gradually takes us nearer to our goals. Defining our daily task means the stating, in writing what we plan to do in a day and time them just like a timetable in other words, drafting your work schedule.
This means cross checking the task you accomplished and the ones you didn’t if there is and re-note them.
We often times try to compete with others. Yes I was ones like that I do remember when a friend of mine bested me in math, my aim all that term was to try and best him though I later did, but after I saw I had bested him, I just relaxed and that was the mistake I made and that’s what we normally do. Nonetheless, when we compete with others it also helps us know how far we’ve gone and try to get better but that doesn’t mean we should just keep on competing with them like a game but rather try as much as possible to be better than what you were back then. Just like Usain Bolt, who has been breaking world racing records he breaks those records by competing with others but before that he always improves himself. His coach did say that most times during trainings, he breaks those records personally now that makes when he comes to race again he breaks records.
This is the last and important aspect of being a success. Now, what’s discipline? According to the7th edition Oxford dictionary, it’s the ability to control your behavior or the way you live. Discipline helps one to be restrained and focused in the face of laziness. According to John Robinson, “discipline is he number one attitude to lethargy; it brings out the best in you by keeping you going without succumbing to personal forces of laxity.” We all know time runs fast it waits for no one but managing time and resources will do a great deal of good for us. It is hard to find someone who would say he or she has got all the time to do what he wants to do and what life has to offer. This tells us that great achievers are people who have taken extra steps to maximize and use their time judiciously. They are not the people with best opportunities but they seized the opportunity they had and made the best out of it. I believe we can too. See you at the top!


Just as snowflakes fall individually, no two are
alike. Each snowflake takes the perfect form for
the maximum efficiency and effectiveness for its
journey. And while the universal force of gravity
gives them a shared destination, the expansive
space in the air gives each snowflakes the
opportunity to take their own path. They are on
the same journey, but each takes a different
path. This shows and explains how unique and
special each snowflake is. We as humans too,
are unique no matter how imperfect we may
think to be.
We are gearing up, on a journey to a given
destination thus, it’s right to say that we are
absolutely perfect for what is required of us. I’m
not perfect for your journey, and you are not
perfect for mine, but I’m perfect for my journey
and you are perfect for yours too. I am heading
to where you are also heading to- the top. We
may follow different routes to get there, but one
thing is certain, we can get there. We are just
both exactly perfect the way we are. My purpose
and yours is not the same. Just like a fan, which
its purpose is to give air when there’s heat or
when we feel hot. But when you try to make it
give out heat when you’re cold, you’re simply
altering its purpose. Nonetheless, before it’s
switched on, it must be plug directly to a socket.
Now, this socket just explains how it is for us all;
through the socket, the fan gets powered on and
through simple techniques and steps, we can
achieve what we have been meant to achieve.
As Rick Warren did put in his book the purpose
driven life, “you were born by his purpose and for
his purpose”. We have an assignment to
accomplish. Don’t let anyone trash you down by
some gibberish words that may be to your
dismay. You are unique.
As humans we are, we cannot run away from
negative thoughts or people trying to tell us what
we aren’t but what we can do is make sure we
don’t let those negative words and thoughts get
to us. At every given moment, we are absolutely
unique for what is required of our journey in life.
Think of what understanding this great
orchestration could mean to us, and in our
relationships. Imagine interacting with others
knowing that they too share in with the parallel
of snowflakes. Like you, they are headed to the
same place and no matter what they may appear
to you, they have taken the perfect form and
route to their journey. Our relationship will be
strong if and only if, we see and respect the
uniqueness of us all. I’m unique and you are
unique too.


Your life is a rare privilege and responsibility
which you cannot shirk.
Many times when we are affected by the
adversities of life or other challenges, we wonder
about the value and meaning to life. We are so
perturbed that we begin to ask why me. It is not
right to react to the issues of our life in this
way. It is perfectly normal to ask questions. But
the questions we ask should be what and how
and not why me. What and how questions of life
evoke the spirit and desire to give service to
fellow beings and society at large.
Our life on earth is a rare privilege to serve. We
cannot see it in another light and expect to be
successful in life. If you wake up and realize you
are now on this planet earth, your life would be
best served when you make decisions along the
following lines:
• I am life
• I am privileged
• I am rare
• It is only me that is me
• I must serve
When we view our lives on the mirror of service,
we are automatic champions. We are instantly
successful. And this is regardless of where we
are coming from.
Poor family background is not an excuse for
poverty. In fact, it has been known to be the
greatest propeller for success for many of the
world’s greats.
Rich family background is not a guarantee for
success in life. In fact, we know countless
number of cases where family wealth had
become an impediment to the success of the
posterity of the family.
When we set out in life serving others, we end
up being their masters. Those you serve depend
on you and sometimes surrender happily their
wealth and sense of direction in life in your
hands to do as you please. We have seen a lot of
this in real life and in movies and books to
buttress this point.
The Saviour Jesus Christ gained all that his
Father has by serving ordinary human beings
even unto surrendering his own life.
One of the ways we can see the adversities of
our lives with an eye leading to success is to see
them as opportunities to move to the next level
in life through service. Actually, it is strongly felt
that some adversities come to us if we overstay
our welcome at a particular spot and are not
involved in the dynamic project of service. The
great Creator Himself instigates some events
that disrupt our comfort zone so that we might
march on to our glory through service and the
way we respond to the events occurring in our
The challenge of living our lives in any other way
other serving and claiming our God ordained
glory is that we could end up in hell. And hell is
when we look at the sunset of our lives and
regret about the things we have done or have
not done, especially of services not rendered or
rendered poorly.
Your lives challenges and adversities are the
schools where you learn how to live on the earth
by service. Your earth life is the school where
you learn how to live in eternity with God,
serving and praising Him. You are expected to
pass your class promotion examinations to be
promoted to the next level and service is the
examination, the homework and pretests you
need to undergo on the route to your success.
See you at the top.