How to be yourself in a Mediocre World (5 mins)

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To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment. __Ralph Waldo Emerson

Spider Man, Batman, The Red power Ranger, Green Lantern, Flash, Superman, Ben10, and X-men Did those names ring a bell? We all wanted to be this… Or that… that sometimes, we forget to be ourselves.
As a mater of fact, Since the time we were very young, we begin to experiment with a variety of different identities. Because we are impressionable. It is only natural that we try out new versions of ourselves at fairly regular intervals. The less inhibited we are, the more readily we will try to imitate whatever appeals to us at the moment. At that, we still tend to want to be like people we truly admire (me included I wanted to be superman and flash). I only wonder who the people we want to be like want to be like. hmm… think about it.

Nonetheless, the most ideal person you should be is YOURSELF. The idea of being oneself however is not as simple as it sounds. We live in a confused world and it is increasingly more difficult to communicate with oneself today than ever. Thus, I still had to Rediscover myself for awhile.
Despite personality anarchy that threatens our human race the following can guide you to be YOU.

1. DISCOVER YOURSELF. As obvious as this may sound, many people get it wrong. It is pretty easy to. Yet it is the first and most important step to being you. How can you be yourself, when you don’t have an idea who really you are meant to be in the first place?
You have to learn to pay attention to yourself and listen to your own inner voice. Ask yourself why you do what you do. Recommended Why you act the way you do 

Query your every actions and reactions until you learn your likes, dislikes, persona, uniqueness, passion, talents, dreams and everything. Isolate your strengths from weaknesses, and understand what is important to you and what is not. It takes a lot of efforts and disciplined concentration to achieve this in our noisy world.
You might also require feedbacks from friends and associate to achieve your objective. Ask them to criticize you and have them do it genuinely. Most importantly, handle their criticisms with maturity and don’t be disheartened if their lists also include some awfully unpleasant things about you.Here’s how Judy Rediscovered herself.

2. ACCEPT YOURSELF. Accept your discovery! Embrace your uniqueness. This includes accepting your pedigree and background – pleasant or unpleasant. It also entails accepting your strengths as well as weaknesses. Most importantly, learn to
accept things you cannot change about
yourself – your past.

3. DEVELOP YOURSELF. As you learn to accept things you cannot change about
yourself, don’t forget to learn how to change the ones you can, to be who you are created to really be. Though a piece of gold is still gold when crude, it is best when refined. Then its real value can be revealed and treasured. The same applies to you. You can’t afford to be crude if you want to attain your full potentials. Continuously develop your strengths and diminish your weaknesses. Do everything in your capacity to be a better person today than you were
yesterday, by simply committing yourself to a life of ever-growing personal improvement.

4. CONTROL YOURSELF. Be in charge of your own life. Don’t run your life’s affairs by “what will people say” . Life is personal and your life’s control must not be left at the mercy of external factors. Don’t give the steering wheel of your life to people who have lost theirs.

Too many people have lost the control of their lives to what others think for them. They’ve diminished themselves to mere robots who function on auto-pilot
Am I trying to say you should ignore peoples’ opinions? Yes! Opinions are as abundant as the over 6 billion of us walking the earth, and everyone wants theirs to rule your life.
So, it doesn’t really make any sense trying to make sense of the noise. If you really know who you are, you will know what is good for you, even if it is unpopular or unconventional. At the end, what makes you special, unique, and yourself is how much personal control you have over your actions and reactions. Learn to explore your power of choice and use it rightly.

5. ENJOY YOURSELF.
The whole essence of being yourself is to have the liberty of enjoying yourself. The idea is simple; BE REAL! Only a real person can enjoy himself/herself. Be truthful to yourself and your God. Be spontaneous.
Laugh when you feel like. Say what is on your mind. Don’t pretend to be happy when
you are not. Don’t act to be who you are not unless you work in Hollywood of course. It
will make your life more interesting and uncomplicated. That is the secret of truly
sophisticated people.
Real people are like magnets. Like iron fillings to a magnet, they draw people to themselves. Whether you like to come in terms with it or not, people see through you, and whether or not they are honest with themselves about it, they know if you are
being real or not.
Aren’t we all attracted to a real person? By being yourself you draw
into your life, the right people, factors, situations and release the positive energy that will make your very existence meaningful. Indeed, Your life is an occasion, rise up to it! Create one that you won’t like to take a vacation from.

Have you ever given yourself a treat? If No, try once in awhile.

What do you think makes you unique?
Think Positive, Think Different.

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17 thoughts on “How to be yourself in a Mediocre World (5 mins)”

  1. Enjoyed this article! Some people say personality theory is limiting – because it forces you to define yourself in a “box” you don’t want to get out of. But I disagree. It helps you find your strengths and your likes -so you can be the best “you” possible

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    1. You are absolutely right. Hmm… You’ve kind of opened my eye to a new truth. Boy! You’re the best!
      Thanks for your heart-felt comment. My kick-starter.
      Have a wonderful week ahead
      Much love, George

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  2. What you said is true..but i find that we all become helpless when we are pressured by the situations that concerns us.We cannot just run away by being selfish . So many things rule our lives. Circumstances forces us to decide against our own desires, till we stand on the verge of breaking. Then we are just in the right place and we can think of ourself and it is liberating. Maybe at that time our circumstance has changed,and its just right time to discover ourself.And i hope when that time comes we can really enjoy our own life for us,not for others.

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    1. Yeah you’re right I’ve been there before (the pressure thing) and i know how it feels. Your words are full of life. I’ve just been inspired to do more. Absolutely we have to enjoy our life for us and not for others. It seems kinda hard but when we do, life will be much fun! thanks for your amazing words my cheerleader. you’re the best.

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  3. The great philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche argued that that our sense of self is not our own, but is something that is constructed, primarily by the people in our lives. The reason being is because we are social animals so when we conform to other people, this benefits society as a whole, but this doesn’t always benefit the individual. In the book “Social: Why Our Brains Are Wired To Connect,” Matthew Lieberman, says that the social world imparts onto us a collection of beliefs about ourselves. And because of how the self functions, we often cling to these beliefs as though they are unique ideas we came up with for ourselves. It is very hard to be an individual, but if we can, it is truly remarkable. thanks for helping people become individuals. great post!

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    1. wow Vincent! thanks. I’ve got a great new idea from this your insightful comment. Oh how i love Mathew Lieberman’s book. I haven’t started reading the book though it was recommended by a friend. From the snippet I’ve got about the book from you, it’s worth the read. Thanks for be an amazing. My awe-inspiring coach.

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      1. you got to read it for sure, it’s one of my favorite books and it has a lot of great ideas in every chapter:) that being one of them:) that’s awesome that someone else in your life has read it and recommended it to you. There’s not enough seekers in this world who are finding great books and telling others about to read them. I had to find it myself so it would’ve been great if someone would have told me to read it earlier. Glad I could give you a new idea:)

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