Happiness is a choice, choose it (6 mins)

“Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.” —Abraham Lincoln

There isn’t one right way to be happy. There isn’t a specific formula that everyone must follow to find true happiness. There isn’t a secret recipe on the back of the Lucky Charms box. (Which is really too bad, that would be awesome.) In fact, what works for one person may not work for another because finding our happiness is deeply personal. But it is possible and is entirely up to each and every one of us.

Happiness is a choice. Whether we want to believe it or not, we are responsible for how happy we are. You may be like: “What? This is insane!” What do you mean it’s up to me? How can I feel happiness when I’m surrounded by hate? How can I feel happiness when I’m finding it hard to cope at this moment? And just as a friend did ask, how can I feel happiness when I get home after 9 hours of work, and I see the house is a mess?

Well, it’s all in how we choose to look at the situation, it’s whether we choose to respond or react that makes the difference. It’s our attitude toward everything that happens to us, and around us, that will take us to that state. I believe that it all starts falling into places the moment we decide to take responsibility for how we feel and what we think, because when you no longer blame others for your misery, that’s when you start seeing things from a different perspective, that’s the moment you begin to notice the shift that is taking place in your life.

When you start saying yes to the universe, yes to LOVE, fear will no longer have its place in your life, for that which is loved can not be feared, and that which is feared can not be loved. These two can’t coexist, and when one is present, the other is absent. I try not to forget this, for it is helping me so much on my journey to self discovery.

Life is so simple but we choose to complicate it, we choose to create all kind of problems for ourselves, and we get so attached to them. We can accept fear, loss, pain, doubt so easily, because we have created them, we have created this world of insanity and it’s hard for us to let it go. We say we want too, but do we really mean it?
We get so attached to them and you know what I found? if we give them up for a while, and things get better for us, we feel peaceful, we feel LOVE… but, you see, because this state of being is so unfamiliar to us, conscious or not, we start creating all kind of problems so we can feel “normal” again. This is how things function in the real world right? In the real world life is harsh, in the real world there is poverty, there is pain and there is fear.

Happiness is not something you postpone for the future, it is something you design for the present. _Jim Rohn

How can we live in a world that does not exist, how can we dare to be happy when there are so many problems waiting for us out there? This is exactly what we do. Most of us, whether we realize it or not, whether we want to admit it or not, do just that. Being necrotic, feeling bitter and frustrated is something normal for many of us, this is how life is supposed to be, this is how we see normality.
When we see people walking on the street with a serene and cheerful face, people that walk along us smiling, we may think that they are crazy, we think that there might be something wrong with them, but what if there isn’t anything wrong with them, what if there is something wrong with us?

“A question that sometimes drives me hazy: am I or are the others crazy?” ~ Einstein

Happiness is a choice, peace of mind is a choice, and that choice is LOVE. After years and years of polluted training, after years of being told that life is a battlefield, and you have to fight against the enemies in order to stay alive, wanting to shift your focus from all those situations and all those people that were “making you unhappy” , to finding your true self, which is pure LOVE, it’s not going to be an easy job, but believe me, it’s not going to be harder than what you were doing until now.

Give up all your past beliefs and all your past limitations and look within, that’s where you will find your true nature, that’s where you will find your real self. That’s where you will find real LOVE. Look for what you really are, not for what you think you are. This is one of the Intentional Actions to Choose Happiness Today

Give up on all that is toxic in your life, hold on onto all that is beneficial and you will be happy. Thanks to Margeaux for sharing Here are 4 Neuroscience Ritual to being happy

Boy! Did I write all this. Jeez Just had to share.

How about you, What others ways do you think people could take in choosing happiness?

Think Positive, Think Different.

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16 thoughts on “Happiness is a choice, choose it (6 mins)

  1. Yes, its all about choice. If one wants to be happy, one can find happiness. I think, truthfulness towards the Self is one of the way to find the inherent happiness within us. I wrote an article on 6 keys to find real happiness. Here is it’s link, https://closetoyoublog.wordpress.com/2016/05/12/6-keys-to-discover-real-happiness-in-life/, if you are interested, you can see that. I don’t like to share my link to other’s comment box. But, here, I shared because it will be the big and boring comment if I choose to discuss all the 6 keys here.
    Have a great day George.

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    1. You are absolutely correct. Being truthful to ourselves is a good way to find happiness just remembered a quote that says, “the biggest lies are the ones we make to ourselves” thanks for sharing the link ‘Cos if you didn’t, I would’ve asked. *smiles* I sure will come over to digest your views towards this. Thanks a bunch Sayanti. You’re amazing! 😉

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  2. This is kismet. I have been reading The Untethered Soul by Michael A. Singer with slow reverence for the past two months savoring each words and chapter. I just complete the chapter addressing this vary message yesterday. Let me add, happiness is not just a choice, it requires a commitment similar to any pact we make – good, bad, sickness, and health – deserving no less than our absolute dedication to creating our happiness while we exist. Thank you for sharing! Adore this post!

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    1. Finally got your name! Kismet. 😃 Well I like the perspective on it being not just a choice but something that requires our commitment and dedication. I’ll search for that “untethered soul” from the looks of things, it was quite a great read for you and i guess it will do for me as well. Thanks for sharing your views with us. BTW, how many chapters does the book contain?

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      1. *smiles* How sweet – to be a fate or destiny in this life. This is a lovely thought indeed. The book contains 18 chapters with a total of 181 pages. I suggest ‘spoon feeding’ yourself each chapter to absorb its full potential and read often. This book is a keeper for me. Looking forward to your perspective on the book. Thank you for the kind words as well.

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  3. Love you post and everything about you website
    we do have a lot of in common
    You are right happiness is a choice, but it is has to be made on subconscious level
    Or we would have recondition ourselves daily

    Love, and Happiness

    Alex Moses

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    1. Wow Alex thanks for that beautiful comment. 😃 Glad to connect with a wonderful like-mind and great cheer leading coach! Like you.
      You’ve got a point there happiness sure has to be made on the subconscious level. Hmm… But what ways do you think one can actualize that?

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