Successful people maintain a positive focus in life no matter what is going on around them. They stay focused on their past successes rather than their past failures, and on the next action steps they need to take to get them closer to the fulfillment of their goals rather than all the distractions that life presents to them.
Let’s take the most cliche and universal New Year’s Resolution of the bunch: “I want to lose
20 lbs and look stunning for summer.” I think almost everyone has had this resolution at some point. In most cases, you recover from
your New Year’s Eve binge on January 1st, sign up for the gym on January 2nd, force yourself to go 5-6 times over the ensuing months mostly out
of guilt because you spent so much damn money and you feel like you should use it.
But you have no idea what you’re doing. And you’re like OMG! look at all of the skinny sweaty people here. Wow, I feel so lazy just watching them. Can this treadmill go any slower? I’m tired. I want a burger. Or maybe ice cream. Or maybe an ice cream burger.
The real reason you go to the gym: so you can eat a burger made out of ice cream.
Aaaaaaaand it’s April 1st and you’re back to body-melding yourself into the fabric of your sofa, watching awful reruns, and wondering how is it that all of your clothes seem to be shrinking at the same time. Yes. The struggle is real.
The problems with the conventional pursuit of goals (i.e., new year’s resolutions and such) is that People tend to rely too much on self-discipline and eschew forming useful habits.
Work on trying to form habits which will benefit you bit by bit.
Example, say, you want to Loose weight this month, Start with a plan. Make it clear. Be specific. this is the first step in making a Clear-cut achievable goal. The “SMART”
Is an acronym that stands for S-specific
Thus, instead of just the “loose weight this year” it will be loose 20lbs weight by X. (“X” could be summer, or a specific month)This makes your mind conscious of what your targeting to loose thereby, keeping you focused. So, say that’s my goal to Loose 20lbs weight by May, I will look at the habits that underlie that goal,which would make that goal an inevitability — eating better, walking more often instead of taking a bus or train or cab, developing a workout plan — and then focus on those. The weight loss then naturally occurs as a side effect.
Next post on “M”.
Now that’s what being specific is.
Go for gold. Take a bold step now and create a new You.