Discovering You: 3 Ways To Escape The Maze By Gaining Freedom

So if you don’t know your purpose in life, what kind of life will you end up living? I’ll sum it up
with one word:owned. Your life is owned by others —their needs, their goals, their purposes. Why?
Because if you don’t know your purpose, others will put you to good use achieving theirs.
Advertisers spend billions every year to get you to take some small action. The company you
work for or the customers you serve — they want to own you too. And how can you say no? You don’t have a better option, do you? You might as well get a job and buy stuff, make some customers happy along the way, and die quietly. Oh, how cheeky? That’s what others have planned for you. That seems to be what everyone else is doing. You might as well
jump on the same bandwagon… seems safe enough.
Is that the plan you wish to follow?

If you happen to be someone who’s consciously aware of your purpose in life, then you already
know what’s missing from the above — freedom.

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Do You Think You Know Your Purpose??? Answer These 3 Questions.

The purpose of life is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experience. -Eleanor Roosevelt

It’s fair to say that if you don’t know your purpose in life, you won’t be spending much time working on it. So what will you end up doing with your working time instead?

They are just Three in number. And these three things are in form of questions you need answer to be sure you’ve found your purpose.

  • Do You Work for your needs a lot?
  • Do You Work for other people’s needs a lot?
  • Do You Work for other people’s purpose?

If you answered yes to all, then you aren’t sure of your purpose yet.

But…. If you answered No to all, keep going strong.

Here’s a breakdown on those 3 questions.

1. Working For Your Needs

If you don’t know your purpose, the limit of the work you do for yourself will be stuck at the level of Need, which at best has the potential to grow into GReed.
To be honest, it’s not particularly fulfilling, spending your whole working life this way… Try it yourself
for a few decades if you don’t believe me, and then look at the passionless shell that stares back at you from your mirror.
I’ve gone through this before by just working on fulfilling my needs; Yes I did get to fulfil some and the more I did, the more needful I get.

  1. Working For Other People’s Needs.

As you work with/for other people, most likely you’ll be putting lots of effort into satisfying other people’s needs and greeds: your boss, your customers, your company’s investors, etc. Even in your free time, you’ll be working to fulfill the desires of advertisers who want you to watch TV and buy stuff. Again, not particularly satisfying, although you may be thrown a few bones by your benefactors, such as the “gift” of working on some interesting projects. This kind of life will ultimately make you want to stand up and shout,
“What exactly is the point of all of this?” But well if you actually do that, you’ll only get blank stares in return. There is no point.
3. Working For Other People’s Purpose.

Now if you’re very lucky, you may get the chance to work for someone or some organization which is itself focused on achieving a conscious purpose. However, there’s no telling what that purpose might be. If you don’t know your own purpose, you can’t consciously choose to work for someone whose purpose aligns with yours except by accident or chance, and the odds of such
alignment are low. So there’s a good chance you’ll be working hard to achieve a purpose you
don’t agree with at all without knowing. Most likely, in such situations you’ll be given a purpose
to achieve that isn’t what you’d choose consciously for yourself. Do you think it fulfilling to spend your whole life this way? Not likely, but it’s at least a
decent path for people who don’t like to think much — others will take care of all the thinking for you (and benefit greatly from all your thoughtless doing).

Birthday Post: My 20 Random Acts Of Kindness At 20!!!

Nothing is better than the perspective for helping a person want to do the right thing.

When you have something going to live for, not only does it make you desire a long life, but it also helps you see the importance of the steps along the way. Seeing the big picture enables us to put up with the limitations.
I came across this on Amy Bennett’s post a couple of months ago and was inspired. I loved what she did but I knew I wanted to try. So I decided to start my random acts of kindness since June leading up to my birthday. Got few ideas from Brad’s Post.

Here are my 20 acts of random (or maybe not so random) kindness:

1.Phoned My Parents and told them i love them.

2.Payed fares for the next person.

3.Complimented a stranger who looks down. At least, when he looked up I saw a smile.

4.Offered to help some people in an area where i have a lot of skill.

5.Put my copy writing skill to work by helping someone on a research project with 34 hour deadline.

6.Asked to see a manager and gave them personal POSITIVE feedback on their services.

7.Let someone in front of me on a busy highway. Did it and most of them thought I was just a quiet and shy person. Ouch!

8.I went to the bank to make deposit and their customer care lady was particularly helpful and accommodating. When checking out she gave me a survey to take.  I was in a rush, but I took it in hopes that it would help her in some way since she helped me.

9.I made a conscious effort to make eye contact and smile with others at a supermarket. I know it always makes a day to get a smile from a stranger!

10.Sent a note of encouragement to a fellow blogger.

11.Picked up litter in the parking space and around school.

12.Kept my side of an agreement on one hand, for an honest review on two books:Firstly, 10 Minute Digital Declutter co-authored by S.J. Scott of HabitBooks and Barrie Davenport of Live Bold and Bloom. Secondly, 7 Things Resilient People Do Differently by Akash Karia  while on the other hand, I got a copy as a gift.

13.Helped a friend to start up a little business. After that, i learned being an entrepreneur and calling yourself one are two different things.

14.As a way of showing someone that his idea was worth the risk he took, I opt-in and seeked adverts for him. I brushed my marketing skills beautifully.

15.Didn’t wait to say “hello” and ask how some people were doing. What i realized from this is that sometimes we shy away from people when we know they’re having a rough time. We assume we should wait for them to approach us, so we’re not intruding. Instead, i have now learned to ask people how they’re doing. If they don’t want to talk, they’ll say they’re “fine.”Many people will be relieved to have someone to talk to. If you don’t ask, they might never mention anything to you. They might not want to burden you with their problems

16.Smiled at everyone I passed by. It didn’t just make them happy but I also got more happier.

17.Helped someone realize the importance of reading books. Now she reads two books per month.

18.Helped someone who looked lost and needed help with directions; without waiting to be asked.

19.Taking myself out on a treat. At least I need to do a little kindness for myself too.

20.Used every opportunities I had to give compliments. It costs nothing, took no time, and i know it could make someone’s entire day. One thing I learned from doing this is to not just think it in the mind but to simply Say it.

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My 43 life Goal list

The person who makes a success of living is the one who sees his goals steadily and aims to it unswervingly
—Cecil B. De Mille

 

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Life is more than just following the normal eat, sleep, conquer repeat routine, there is more to it than that. As a matter of fact, we all have a role to play in structuring the kind of life we envision to live. Setting goals isn’t just like a to-do list that we accomplish today or tomorrow, but a starting point toward structuring the life we dream to have. I have been setting my goals though but I only write them down in my personal diary. So from what I’ve come to realize, making it [our goals] open, will push us to try and accomplish them. According to the research I made, It was mind-boggling to know that only 3% of the world’s populations actually write down their goals. Took some inspiration from Jack Canfield’s 101 goal list and I had to ask myself few “what” questions like
What do I want to do?
What do I need to do?
What do I want to see?
Where do I want to see?
Where do I want to be?
What legacy do I want to leave?
What do I want to share?
What do I want to have?

After asking those questions, I figured my answers came as a laid-down goal to achieve.
You may ask why I’m publicising it.
It’s simple here’s why:
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The purpose driven life by Rick Warren.

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This is really a lovely book. I read this book the last quarter of the year, 2015 and it’s been really impactful in my life and beyond. It’s a powerful spirirtual guide book that will help you live a purposeful life and also change your views about life. To be honest, I felt lackadaisical about reading it but I just had to try since as a group we were to give a summary of it so I just had. Nonetheless, I was thrown over when I saw I had to rread a chapter a day for 40 days—which was how the book is to be read. It’s a guide anyway and after reading, it had a great impact in my life.
Who is rick warren?
Rick warren is the founding pastor of saddleback church in lake forest, California, United states. His church—Saddleback, is one of  America’s largest and best known churches. His previous book—the purpose driven church has sold over a million copies in 20 languages. He was selected by the Evangelical
Christian Publishers Association (ECPA)
as the winner of a gold medallion. His previous book was selected as one of the 100 christian books that transformed the 20th century.
Whats the purpose driven life?
The new York bestseller, has sold over 30 million copies. It is a blueprint for Christians living in the 21st century—a lifestyle based non gods eternal purposes, not cultural values. Over 1200 scriptural quotes and refrences were used as it challenges the conventional definitions of worship, fellowship, discipleship, ministry, and evangelism. In the tradition of Oswald Chamber, rick warren offers distilled wisdom on the essence of what life is all about.

the greatest trajedy is not death .but life without a purpose—rick warren

He explained the five purposes of Christians to the world which are for worship, discipleship, service, mission, and fellowship. Which are also like the 5 m’s of our purpose in life namely to be  members, models, magnifiers, ministers, and messengers.
Table of contents
Introduction – A Journey with Purpose…………………1
Day 1: It All Starts with God………………………………..1
Day 2: You Are Not an Accident……………………………2
Day 3: What Drives Your Life ………………………………2
Day 4: Made to Last Forever………………………………..3
Day 5: Seeing Life from God’s View ………………………3
Day 6: Life Is a Temporary Assignment ………………..4
Day 7: The Reason for Everything ………………………..4
Day 8: Planned for God’s Pleasure………………………..6
Day 9: What Makes God Smile?……………………………7
Day 10: The Heart of Worship………………………………8
Day 11: Becoming Best Friends with God ……………..9
Day 12: Developing Your Friendship with God…….10
Day 13: Worship That Pleases God……………………..12
Day 14: When God Seems Distant ………………………13
Day 15: Formed for God’s Family………………………..14
Day 16: What Matters Most ……………………………….16
Day 17: A Place to Belong…………………………………..17
Day 18: Experiencing Life Together…………………….19
Day 19: Cultivating Community …………………………19
Day 20: Restoring Broken Fellowship………………….20
Day 21: Protecting Your Church…………………………21
Day 22: Created to Become Like Christ……………….23
Day 23: How We Grow……………………………………….25 Day 24: Transformed by Truth……………………………25
Day 25: Transformed by Trouble…………………………26
Day 26: Growing through Temptation…………………29
Day 27: Defeating Temptation ……………………………30
Day 28: It Takes Time ……………………………………….30
Day 29: Accepting Your Assignment……………………31
Day 30: Shaped for Serving God …………………………32
Day 31: Understanding Your Shape ……………………34
Day 32: Using What God Gave You …………………….34
Day 33: How Real Servants Act ………………………….35
Day 34: Thinking Like a Servant………………………..36
Day 35: God’s Power in Your Weakness ………………37
Day 36: Made for a Mission………………………………..38
Day 37: Sharing Your Life Message…………………….38
Day 38: Becoming a World-Class Christian………….40
Day 39: Balancing Your Life……………………………….41
Day 40: Living with Purpose………………………………42
Number of pages: 327
My thoughts
This is a life-changing book for people of all ages. It’s a must-read to help you know your purpose in life. It’s been said that we have been pre-designed for a given function and at such, we all have different roles to play. This book, will  help you find that purpose of which you were designed to live out. It’s a well written work of what ricjk warren learnt about the purpose of life. Actually, it’s a 40-day spiritual journey guide that will enable you to discover the answer to lifes most important question: what on earth am I here for? If you haven’t found that and your still in search of one, or working to know more about yours. Whatsoever reason or question you have about life, you could discover it in this book.
My rating: 4.5/5
Do have a purposeful week and year ahead.

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Finding the courage to live consciously

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Security is mostly a superstition. It does not exist in nature, nor do the children of men as a whole experience it. Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. Life is either a daring adventure, or nothing. To keep our faces toward change and behave like free spirits in the presence of fate is strength undefeatable.
– Helen Keller

In our day-to-day lives, the virtue of courage doesn’t receive much attention. Sometimes, we feel Courage is a quality reserved for soldiers, firefighters, and activists. Security is what matters most today. Perhaps you were taught just like I was, to avoid being too bold or too brave. It’s too dangerous. Don’t take unnecessary risks. Don’t draw attention to yourself in public. Follow family traditions. Don’t talk to strangers. Keep an eye out for suspicious people. Stay safe. But a side effect of overemphasizing the importance of personal security in your life is that it can cause you to live reactively. Instead of setting your own goals, making plans to achieve them, and going after them with gusto, you play it safe not to get hurt. Keep working at the stable job, even though it doesn’t fulfill you. Remain in the unsatisfying relationship, even though you feel dead inside compared to the passion you once had. Who are you to think that you can buck the system? Accept your lot in life, and make the
best of it. Go with the flow, and don’t rock the boat. Your only hope is that the currents of life
will pull you in a favorable direction. No doubt there exist real dangers in life you must
avoid. But there’s a huge gulf between recklessness and courage. Oh my don’t get it twisted, I’m not referring to
the heroic courage required to risk your life to save someone from a burning building not at all.  courage I mean is the ability to face down those imaginary fears and reclaim the far more
powerful life that you’ve denied yourself.

Have the courage to follow your heart and intuition, they somehow already know what you truly want to become. ~Steve Jobs

I had these fears then, like Fear of failure. Fear of rejection. Fear of going broke.
Fear of being alone. Fear of humiliation. Fear of
public speaking –this was the biggest! Fear of being ostracized by family and friends. Fear of physical discomfort. Fear of regret. Fear of success. And one I’m still working on fear of heights! I just hope to get over it.
How many of these fears are holding you back?
How would you live if you had no fear at all?
You’d still have your intelligence and common sense to safely navigate around any real dangers, but without feeling the emotion of fear, would you be more willing to take risks, especially when the worst case wouldn’t actually hurt you at all? Would you speak up more often,
talk to more strangers, ask for more sales, dive headlong into those ambitious projects you’ve
been dreaming about? What if you even learned to enjoy the things you currently fear? What kind of difference would that make in your life?
Have you previously convinced yourself that you
aren’t really afraid of anything… that there are always good and logical reasons why you don’t
do certain things? Okay here are few of the reasons I did tell myself then. It would be rude to introduce yourself to a stranger. You shouldn’t attempt public speaking because you don’t have anything to say. You know what? I found out they’re just rationalizations though – think about how your life would change if you could confidently and courageously do these things with no fear at all.
Be courageous to do the unthinkable.

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3D factors successful people use to turn their dreams into reality.

The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams- Eleanor Roosevelt

Do you realize how close you are to turning your dreams into your reality?
If you could see how close you are to success, you’d be kicking yourself that you haven’t just
reached out to grab it yet.
The truth is, no matter how much you feel like a
failure, success is literally waiting for you. Success is a process. There’s no short-cut to it. The only thing you have to do, is fight off
the factors that’s holding you back from achieving yours. The top is very free, but at the end only few end up there. There are factors, processes and ways to achieve success. One common thing I realized about all success-oriented personals is that they had to give in something be it their time or resources in order to get to where they are now.
Here are the 3-D factors successful achievers use in turning their dreams into reality.
1. Don’t make Excuses
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If we choose someone successful to look at as an epitome, like Steve Jobs or Richard Branson or Bill Gates or Oprah Winfrey, we’ll see that they never made excuses. When things went wrong, they didn’t blame other people, their background and they didn’t refuse to accept responsibility for their own mistakes. I’m not perfect though but there’s time in my life when I was more of an excusing person but since when I made it as a challenge to work on myself, I’ve seen things that are really different. Something about these men is that they neither tried to justify their poor choices nor make excuses because they understood
that failure is going to happen. After forming it as a habit to not make excuses, I got to realize that no matter what us, humans undergo, It’s not the end of the road – it’s just a one step on the road to success. When you think it’s the end of the road, add a B-end, because it’s just a bend away to your desired destination.

2. Don’t get scared of Failure
Like I already said, failure happens. But it’s not a
dead end – it’s just a bend which means you could still rise above it.
Too many people run into a tiny bit of failure,
and they think they’re done forever. They give up
immediately, never realizing how close they were
to achieving their goals.
The problem is, they take failure personally. They
think it means something’s wrong with them. But
the truth is, failure is part of the journey to
success.
That’s why it’s so important that you stop getting scared of it.
3. Don’t Beat up themselves.
Think about it. Can you imagine Bill Gates,
yelling at himself, saying that he’s dumb, or lazy,
or any of the other million insults people tell
themselves? Of course not!
Successful people don’t beat themselves up.
They understand that taking your anger out on
yourself only pushes your goals farther away.
They still get upset, but they channel those emotions into constructive energy. They use that
energy as jet fuel to reach their goals. The truth about success is that you’re closer than you think. Sometimes all it takes is to embrace these factors so you can let your dreams
pour in.

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Just be yourself (2 mins)

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Live authentically. Why would you continue to compromise something that’s beautiful to create something that is fake?
Steve Maraboli

I have a confession to make, I was comparing myself with others a lot. Guess what? I noticed I’m never going to be like you. I could try and try with every ounce of my being, but I still would be a lesser version of you than you already are. I could put all of my focus into acting like you, talking like you, writing like you, being like you – and you would still be better at being you than I ever could.

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